The Mom
Who Did Everything


The Mom
Who Did Everything

before_first_foodWhen Heather Meyers was pregnant, she figured she’d learn how to handle issues around feeding, sleep, and potty training in books and on blogs. But as soon as Rosemary was born, she made it clear: there was no answer to her needs in any stinkin’ book. So Heather had to figure it out as she went along. She started feeding Rosemary real food at three months (at left, eagerly awaiting for her first meal). And she carried her or let her walk everywhere because Rosemary refused to be in a stroller.


Heather was desperate to talk about her parenting “hacks” with other moms. But doing things differently made it nearly impossible to make friends.

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Top photo: Suzanne Tadros

21 thoughts on “PODCAST #22: The Mom Who Did Everything Wrong

  1. Thank you for this! It really helps to hear these types of stories, where everybody else tells you “This is wrong”, and you try and try doing it the “right” way, but it never works, and then you try it the supposedly “wrong” way, and the problem goes away… It’s good to know that we all try to do the “right” thing, but the actual right thing is the thing that works best for the baby and its family!

  2. I’m guessing by the comments that I’m not the only one who got a little bit of a punched-in-the-gut feeling. It has nothing to do with you or your podcast!

    Those of us who have made opposite “wrong choices” (because in our culture EVERY choice is “wrong”) have a tender spot in this area I believe. I know that every time someone said, “Well, *I* just give him a bottle and he goes right to sleep,” I felt so undermined in my [exhausted, overwhelmed, difficult, even desperate] effort to deal with my non-sleeping, exclusively breastfed but tongue-tied-with-a-terrible latch baby. Clearly I was doing something wrong. And thanks to the glory of mommy-guilt, I’ll bet it’s entirely possible that other mom said her piece in such a snotty voice because she was feeling yucky inside for having “taken the easy route.”

    Which is the glory and the danger of what you are doing…giving us a safe place to not have to compete…but at the same time we all risk something touching those painful spots.

    Have you seen this, I think it’s wonderful:

  3. Up to this point, I wasn’t a podcast or “mommy-blog” person, but I LOVE this podcast series. So Thank you. I have found myself crying or laughing or gasping during every episode, but mostly, I’ve been comforted in some way by every story. Kudos, Hillary.

    This episode in particular was spot on in my world. I have a daughter who is strikingly similar. I was so reassured and validated that my ‘strange’ approach was not in fact ‘wrong.’ Maybe I got lucky with my decisions and choices, but when you have a child who doesn’t want to snuggle when sleeping and pushes you away or who would rather push the stroller than ride in it… you just have to make it work. So to Heather… I hear you, but more importantly, Thank you.

  4. I’m a new listener to the podcast and love it. Just wanted to say in reference to your dessert “hack” that, while unconventional, Ellyn Satter (a well-known child feeding expert) actually encourages serving dessert at the same time as the rest of dinner and allowing the child to decide when to eat it. This helps them see dessert as just another part of dinner rather than a reward.

  5. Thank you for this podcast! Love listening to stories about “everything she did wrong.”

    Rosemary is an adorable baby and I LOVE her hanbok! :)

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