EPISODE #15

What YOU Expect When You're Expecting

EPISODE #15

What YOU Expect When You're Expecting

In honor of the What to Expect movie being out, I thought we’d do our own little exploration of expectations here at LST. I had this idea that it would be fun to find a pregnant woman who would be kind enough to share her own anxieties and excitement about impending motherhood—and then check back in with her every couple of weeks after her baby is born. That generous woman kind of fell in my lap when I got a surprise e-mail from my friend Joanne telling me she was 8 months pregnant. Joanne is 40, a first-time mom, and a blast to talk to. And she has a fantastic Boston accent to boot. My friends, you are in for a treat. Joanne is going to tell it like it is. She will make you laugh. She will make you cry. And she will sound awesome doing it.

Joanne at 32 weeks

Joanne at 32 weeks

Joanne with her husband, Jason

Joanne with her husband, Jason

Sonogram at 30 weeks. If you look closely in the upper left corner you'll see nose, lips, and a chin that look EXACTLY like Jason's.

Sonogram at 30 weeks. If you look closely in the upper left corner you’ll see nose, lips, and a chin that look EXACTLY like Jason’s.

Episode 15 is the first installment in “What YOU Expect,” an ongoing LST miniseries about prenatal expectations and how they pan out. Please join us on this journey, and feel free to post in the comments about similarities and differences to your own experiences.

UPDATE: We wound up stopping this series with this episode. But followed a different woman through pregnancy and early motherhood.

Joanne’s favorite poetry about motherhood
Also, Joanne is a poet. She hasn’t written any fully-formed poems about pregnancy or motherhood (yet!) but she says the best poetry she’s read about the subject is Museum of Accidents by Rachel Zucker.

5 thoughts on “EPISODE #15: What YOU Expect When You’re Expecting

  1. This new mama is going to be just fine! She is very realistic and aware that success is figuring out what works for you and your child as you go along. I wish her the best!

  2. What a great idea! I love this interview (and all the others you did!). I can really relate to the question you asked about how she’s had 4 decades of life basically how she wants it (she could do what she wants when she wants it). I had my first(?) child at 33, and that’s fairly late here in Québec (I don’t know if it’s the same in the rest of North America), and I feel that I had a bit of a hard time adapting to the change because I was older than the average. I had all that time to take care of myself and only myself… Sure, I had been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 12 years, but that’s not the same as taking care of a baby (some women say it is, but it really isn’t!)! I feel like I was a little spoiled before I gave birth to my daughter… On the other hand, I think I’m a lot more mature than what I was when I was 22 or even 26 years old. So that’s the positive aspect. :) But still, I thought I wouldn’t have trouble welcoming a baby in my life because I was altruistic… Taking care of a friend is soooooo different from taking care of a baby! I knew that, of course, but I didn’t know to what extent it’s different! It’s completely different! It’s not even close! I might’ve been altruistic, but I was also very self-involved. My daughter is slowly teaching me to take care of my ego the right way, so that I don’t feel invaded in my privacy anymore. I know I’m not totally making sense right now, but it’s an issue I’m still thinking about; at some point, I’ll be able to explain it clearly…

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