The Fun &
the Chaos, 1


The Fun &
the Chaos, 1

My pal Kirsten grew up in Maine with her mom, her dad, and her two brothers.

Their dad, Norm, owned a couple of restaurants. There he is at the second one with a teenaged Kirsten.

Norm always knew how to find the fun in anything: throwing a secret ingredient into fried chicken; letting Kirsten play hooky in high school when she got dumped; turning a bunch of road-side weeds into centerpieces for her wedding. But, as I’ve learned from Kirsten over almost 20 years of friendship, there was a flip-side to Norm’s fun. Tune in to hear what Norm passed down to Kirsten … both the good and the chaotic.

Kirsten and me in 2007, the night before I got married

What traits have you inherited from YOUR parents?
How are you like them? What parts of them have you fought? Tell, tell!

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13 thoughts on “EPISODE #112: The Fun & the Chaos, 1

  1. What a fantastic episode. I can relate to Kirsten managing her Mom’s anger and frustration, “trying to protect her, save her from the suffering.” Looking forward to the follow-up next week!

  2. What a great episode! Love this podcast! I try to validate my son’s feelings, and let him make decisions for himself, which is not what my parents did for me. To them, I was being over dramatic if something upset me and I cried. They said it was rude if I refused to hug or kiss someone. If my son starts to cry, I comfort him, and if he doesn’t want to hug grandma, or his aunt, I say that’s ok. I don’t want to teach him not to trust his feelings.

  3. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for sharing so much. By far one of my favorites, you had me in tears. Kirsten is so authentic, open, and loving. Can’t wait for part 2.

    1. Laura, thank you for your beautiful words. Both of these episodes have been deeply cathartic and your feedback is so appreciated and part of the healing. Thank you so much!

  4. I connected so much with Kirsten’s life story. I was also homeschool and had a fun loving, happy go lucky but alcoholic father. I have to say I started crying when listening to this episode. Thank you so much for sharing. My family’s still in the mist of all the chaos and it’s comforting to know people have come out on the other side. ❤

    1. Eden! Thank you for sharing part of your story! Peace will come, it does. It’s not easy, but there is a simple quality to it when we decide we are ready and choose it. It’s like a muscle that needs a lot of exercise to grow strong. And our life and families provide many practice opportunities!

  5. My Dad prides himself on his ability to annoy those closest to him. Memories of ice buckets thrown in the bathtub and secret holes poked in plastic cups are just the beginning. He’s still developing new tricks, and I have – for better or worse – inherited this creative-annoyance lifestyle. Successfully irritating my wife gives me great pleasure, and I’m planning my own new tricks for our first child, currently on the way. Thanks Dad.

  6. I loved these two podcasts. I also grew up in an alcoholic home, in an attempt to escape that I got married to my high school sweetheart, who years later also turned out to be an alcoholic. I’ve been in Alanon for several years and it has saved my life and my sanity. I’m so grateful for your willingness to publicly share your story, I could relate to so much, especially the denial since my husband’s alcoholism looked different than my dad’s. The affect of the family disease of Alcoholism stole my mother’s life way too young and I am determined to have a different outcome for my family and myself, one day at a time.

  7. My parents fought.. badly. Scary and violent. They are still together, still fighting. Its hard because we just have to endure it. I think I inherited the coping mechanksim of being as quiet as possible. Lol.

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