EPISODE #118

All the Feels with Rob Huebel

EPISODE #118

All the Feels with Rob Huebel

Actor and comedian Rob Huebel is know for playing a**holes. So when I went into this interview with him, I was expecting him to be tough to crack. Turns out, he’s a softie. I mean, yes, Rob told me to f*ck off, but our conversation really ran the emotional spectrum.

Tune in to hear Rob talk about becoming a dad at age 47, and what it was like to have his baby come early. By nearly four months.

Rob and his wife Holly Hannula had to leave their daughter, Holden, in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) for a whopping 117 days—all the while worried that something could go terribly wrong with her health.

Rob and Holly with Holden in the NICU

Holden’s NICU graduation!

We don’t often hear birth and NICU stories from a dad’s point of view. And Rob talks about the start of his family with so much heart … and humor … and f-bombs … and one really well-placed fart noise … that I can’t stop thinking about this conversation. Oh, and also he used to sneak onto airplanes as a child. I think this one’s gonna stick with you guys, too.

More Rob

We love Rob’s performance as a dad getting divorced on Transparent. And as a smarmy real estate agent in I Love You, Man.

Also as a quick-tempered dad in this pre-election Funny or Die video:

And here’s the full version of the “Inconsiderate Cell Phone Man” trailer that we excerpted on the show. Rob says this is the ad that got him typecast as an a*hole.

Resources for Parents of Preemies

March of Dimes works to help prevent premature birth and improve the lives of preemies and their families.

Hand to Hold provides resources and support to preemies and babies born with special needs.

Graham’s Foundation delivers support, advocacy, and research to improve outcomes for preemies and their families.

What surprises came with the birth of YOUR child?
Especially looking for dads here. C’mon, dads, we know you’ve got interesting stuff to say!

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22 thoughts on “EPISODE #118: All the Feels with Rob Huebel

  1. I loved this episode, but wanted to point something out regarding Rob’s comments on health insurance. He said that they don’t have Obamacare; while they may not have gotten their insurance plan through the ACA, they most certainly benefitted from it.

    If Holden had been born before the ACA was passed, her medical bills would have undoubtedly exceeded the lifetime maximum on their insurance plan. This used to happen to babies in NICU all of the time. https://community.babycenter.com/post/a2867945/nicu_costs

    I just want to make sure that both Rob and your audience understand what the ACA did for their family and millions of others. We have an 8yo son with cystic fibrosis, type 1 diabetes and some other health issues. He would’ve exceeded his lifetime maximum years ago if it weren’t for the ACA.

    I think this is a very important matter and hope you will share it with your audience.

  2. This was a tough one for me as a mom of full-term twins who only brought one baby home. I am so happy that Holden is doing so well and I wish them lots of love and happiness in the future.

  3. I appreciate this episode so much, the dad’s point of view is so often missed when babies have issues…even having gone through it, it seemed like it was always ME people asked about. Our middle boy wasn’t a preemie, but had many other health issues stemming from CMV that kept him in the NICU for a few months, and I related so much to many thinga. <3

  4. This episode was wonderful! I loved how honest Rob was. It made me cry, especially when Rob was emotional. So touching. I’m a grandmother of 6, never had a preemie experience, but could relate to the human-ness of the story. Thank you, Hillary, and team!

  5. Thank you for this story. I listened to this as I drove to work on Easter for a night shift in the NICU. I had been feeling sorry that I was missing my 8mo olds first Easter, but this was a reminder of how lucky I am to do this job. Being a mom and a doctor is the hardest balance, but these stories make it worth it.

  6. Thank you Rob and TLDT for this episode. I am the farther of a 2 lb 1oz, 26 week preemie. Our story is so similar to Rob’s I could have sworn I was listening to someone tell ours story. Being the parent of a Preemie is something I could never fully explain to anyone else, and it something I could never expect anyone else to understand. The horrible crazy thoughts you have about losing your baby at every stage. I remember the day my son was born, I could not get “preemie babies die” out of my head. This was the only thing I knew to be fact about preemie babies. I quickly learned otherwise, Thanks to the Nurses in the NICU at North Shore Medical Center in Miami. They are truly Heros! My son is now 2 years old and doing great, but he will always be a preemie, and I will always be a preemie dad.
    Oh and about the crying, don’t worry, I think its par for the course. Welcome to the club.

  7. I loved this episode and couldn’t believe the coincidence– I was baking for a bake sale to support March of Dimes!!! We raised $600 for them today!!

  8. “The longest shortest time episode 118
    (crying emoticon)”

    That was the text my wife sent me today after listening to Rob’s episode. I listened to it on my commute after work and got very emotional as well. Our twins arrived five months before their due date because my boy’s water broke and didn’t give another choice to his sister than follow his lead. Even though there was no major complications on any of them, they had to spend about a week in the NICU. Like Rob said, you see them inside a plastic box, with cables and monitors all over them, a feeding tube and you almost have to ask for permission to touch them or hold them, even though we didn’t have to, it felt like that. It was heartbreaking seeing them in there as well as other babies in the same or worse condition than ours. My wife and I were just really apprehensive and emotional during this time, we had had three miscarriages before getting pregnant with the twins (without any medical fertility treatment), and each day the doctor and nurses would tell us they were doing great it was a huge relief. The day they graduated and came home with us they were still very small but strong, the chest belt on the car seat was as big as their own chest. They are now 19 months old and are the biggest gift my wife and I could have asked for. Many strangers in the street have told us having twins must be “double trouble”, and yes, it is, and just like my wife answers to them, they’re also “double blessing”. Thank you Hillary for this amazing podcast, and thank you Rob for sharing your story!

  9. Thanks for sharing this. So much of Rob’s story is eerily similar to mine. My wife unexpectedly went into labor at 27 weeks and was immediately put on bed rest at the hospital. In fact, the same hospital – Cedars Sinai in LA. After a week of meds to stop the contractions, the doctors ultimately said there was nothing more they could do and that they would deliver our baby via c-section that night, at 28 weeks. I’d never felt so terrified or helpless in my life. I put on a brave face for my wife but broke down crying on the phone with family and friends. The next 24 hours were a blur. Rob basically explained the precise experience that I had – the overwhelming joy and love of seeing a tiny, frighteningly small and frail baby, the NICU team ready to immediately take care of the baby, them calling me dad and asking me to follow them up the secret back elevator from the delivery room to the NICU. This story brought back so many memories for me. Our son is 7 now and he’s thriving. There are so many times when I get frustrated and upset with him for the smallest, insignificant, petty things. Hearing Rob’s story reminded me of how blessed I am to have such a fighter for a son, who’s already achieved so much just by surviving those long 10 weeks in the NICU. Thank you for sharing.

  10. Loved the episode! I was Holden’s primary night nurse in the NICU @ Cedars. Thanks for sharing your story with everyone. Holden enjoy all that life has to offer.. You’re a fighter for sure! Go easy on your parents…Rob & Holly it was a pleasure taking care of your baby.

    ❤ Ana

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