The Provider's Guide to Quitting


The Provider's Guide to Quitting

Bry Webb was a punk rock star. For 11 years, he was the lead singer and songwriter in the Constantines. Yelling into a mike, jumping around onstage—it was what he knew best.


But when Bry realized he wanted to become a father, he thought he’d have to give up music so he could provide for the family.

So he quit.

He swore he’d never go back. And he stuck to his guns. Until one night, when the baby was sleeping, and everything changed.


In this episode, hear the story behind Bry’s album Provider, a series of messages for his son Asa (and we DEBUT a song from Bry’s next record Free Will, which comes out May 20, 2014).


Want to see the Constantines on their reunion tour this summer? Tour dates coming soon to their website.

Top photo: Joe Rayment; bottom left: Barna Nemethi

9 thoughts on “EPISODE #25: The Provider’s Guide to Quitting

  1. I listened to this on my way to work today and wept. I’ve been struggling with wanting so fiercely to be home with my son, or continuing my other love of teaching. I honestly do not know what to do. However, listening to this specific podcast was healing, so thank you. You are doing amazing things for new parents, Hillary. I thank you so much.

  2. This really hit home, by far my favorite episode yet. I left writing behind to become a nurse because I needed to find steady work and I wanted space in my life to be a good mother and provider. Of course, it’s never that easy to leave behind a dream and transition into something less dreamy. I just loved this and shared this with my husband, the musician/office worker. Thank you. Oh, and “Asa” is a gorgeous song.

  3. This hit home — on so many levels. I’ve struggled to balance my professional work and my creative work for a long time before my son came along, but Bry’s perspective — on writing for this new little person in his life — is a great inspiration to me. I started listening to this episode without reading the post first, and I was washing dishes, my own little Asa on my back, when Bry first mentioned his son’s name. Needless to say, “Asa” has been on repeat in our home.

  4. I loved this! I’m a father of three, a designer by trade, and a musician at heart. My story is a little different from your guest’s in that my children have come before any music career. I mean chronologically. In fact, starting that music career is still in my future. I’m trying to jumpstart something as we speak, and a lot of the things you talked about – the pressure to be more conventional, the sense of duty that comes with fatherhood, and the “odds are against you” struggle to find a way to make my art my life’s work while being a great father – are things I think about every day. I feel a little less alone now. Thanks!

  5. I loved this episode for so many reasons—in particular it hadn’t ever occurred to me that we might sing/provide comfort around our ‘core parenting issue.’ What a revelation! The song I made up for my daughter was about relaxing and going to sleep, something I ended up having a lot of trouble with about 8-9 months after she was born. I’m kind of flummoxed this never occurred to me before. Wowzah.

  6. Thank you for this episode. I’m a stay-at-home mom and a curator who writes. The tension your guest described was so simply and eloquently put, and his creative triumph against the odds gave me hope that creativity can blossom within the messy daily life of parenting. There’s something very gentle about his approach. He didn’t force his creative epiphany and I think there’s a real lesson in that, maybe one that parenting teaches best.

  7. This is amazing, Hilary. Had me crying a couple minutes in. Something I hadn’t thought about at all, but yes, of course! Now I have to think about my songs….

  8. I love my job, but have been struggling with this issue. Also and related: my baby’s lullaby is “oh, it’s my babykin, babykin, my littlest kin. If you can, she can–of course you can, she’s the babykin-can…yes she can!” Whoa, yup. Issue lullaby! :)

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