Most of us, at some point, will be touched by an affair—whether in our own relationships, or because one of our parents cheated, or because we are a trusted confidant. It’s a scary thing to think about. Especially when kids are in the mix.
So it’s a good thing that one of our audience favorites, couples therapist Esther Perel, is an expert on this very topic.
In fact, she’s got a brand new book about it. It’s called The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.
Esther says that if we want to understand what leads to affairs, and help prevent them, we need to be talking to our partners—like, with brutal honesty—about our sexuality, our desires, and our fears. And she says that, although infidelity usually indicates that a relationship’s in crisis, it can also be a helpful wakeup call.
Tune in to hear Esther answer some of your questions about how to navigate affairs, and how to keep them from happening in the first place.
Want more Esther?
Check out Episode #96: The Parents’ Guide to Doing It.
Esther’s also got her own podcast called Where Should We Begin?, where you can hear her working through actual therapy sessions with real patients.
Esther speaking: Daniel Schwartz. Esther at book signing: Kevin Tachman